KinkWeb is a community for adults exploring intimacy, kink, and connection. Our design philosophy — a radar chart showing where people actually align — only works if the community using it is safe, consensual, and respectful.
These guidelines describe how we expect people to behave here, and what we do when they don't. Read them once when you join; come back when you need to.
Everything that happens on KinkWeb — a message, a gift, a photo, a meetup — requires the enthusiastic, informed, ongoing agreement of every person involved. Consent in the kink space isn't optional garnish; it's the only thing separating what we do from what we refuse. If you would not do something in front of someone who loves you, don't do it to someone who trusts you.
Your radar chart describes what you're into. It doesn't describe who you are, and it doesn't describe who anyone else is. Treat every person you encounter here as a whole human first. A compatibility score is an invitation to a conversation, never a claim on anyone's time or attention.
Many people on KinkWeb are not out to their families, coworkers, churches, or countries. What happens here stays here. Don't screenshot someone else's profile, DMs, or photos. Don't search for people's real-world identities. Don't post identifying details about someone else without their clear permission. If you think about it for a second and aren't sure, don't post it.
A hard limit is a hard limit. If you mark something hard no on your Web, no one should try to persuade you otherwise. If someone does — push through a limit, ignore a safeword, steer a conversation toward what you've said isn't welcome — report them. That's exactly what the report button is for.
Everybody here was new once. The kink community has historically taken on a mentorship role, and we want KinkWeb to reflect that. If someone's profile looks green and their questions seem basic, answer kindly. Nobody is obligated to educate anyone, but if you choose to engage, please do so without condescension. First-day users who get a warm reception stay; the ones who get sneered at leave, and we're all worse for it.
Moderation on KinkWeb is a mix of automated signals and human review. Reports go to the moderation team, which acts according to a tiered response:
Moderators can read reported content to the extent necessary to evaluate the report. They cannot read private messages that have not been reported. The moderation team is bound by the same privacy obligations that apply to KinkWeb as a whole.
When someone crosses a line, tell us.
Reports are reviewed within 72 hours during the soft launch. We'll tell you the outcome to the extent privacy allows. False reports submitted in bad faith — for example, to harass a user you dislike — are themselves a violation.
US: RAINN — 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) · rainn.org
UK: Rape Crisis — 0808 500 2222 · rapecrisis.org.uk
EU: Women Against Violence Europe · wave-network.org
US: National Domestic Violence Hotline — 1-800-799-7233 · thehotline.org
UK: Refuge — 0808 2000 247 · nationaldahelpline.org.uk
US & Canada: 988 (call or text)
UK: Samaritans — 116 123 · samaritans.org
International: findahelpline.com
US: Trevor Project — 1-866-488-7386 · text START to 678-678 · thetrevorproject.org
International: IGLYO · iglyo.com
NCSF Kink Aware Professionals — therapists, lawyers, and medical providers familiar with kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy: ncsfreedom.org
We interpret these guidelines in the spirit they're written. Someone acting in good faith who makes a minor slip will get a conversation, not a ban. Someone acting in bad faith who technically stays within the letter of the rules will still leave. Judgment calls fall to the moderation team. If you disagree with one, reply and we'll talk.
These guidelines evolve with the community. Substantial changes will be announced in-app at least 14 days before taking effect. Day-to-day clarifications are posted without notice. The top-of-page date reflects the last substantive revision.